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A Dear Momma Baby Guide
Loving Them, Keeping Me
When everything wants a piece of you, in your baby’s first year
Answer the cry. Keep yourself.
For when everything wants a piece of you: how to answer the cry and keep yourself, in your baby’s first year.
What it’s costing you
The crying you can’t fix. Hands on you from dawn to midnight. Advice from everyone who’s ever held a baby. The 3 a.m. quiet when the whole world is asleep but you. And somewhere under all of it, the woman you were a year ago. Loving them was never the question. Keeping yourself is.
Why it works
You can answer the cry and keep yourself. Both. This is insight, not therapy: understanding why it hits so hard, so you can steady yourself, ask for what you need, and come back to who you are.
Use it tonight
If someone says…
“Enjoy every minute. It goes so fast.”
“Some minutes I do. Some I’m just getting through.”
“Sleep when the baby sleeps.”
“I’m trying. Could you hold them so I can?”
“You’re so lucky.”
“I am. It’s also the hardest thing I’ve ever done.”
from Loving Them, Keeping Me
All the way through
Why the crying undoes you, and the room it takes you back to.
The cry you can’t fix, the fury nobody talks about, the measuring, doing all the knowing, your mother in your kitchen, alone at 3 a.m., and who you are now. Seven days of coming up for air.
What changes
Words for the cry you can’t fix, so you stay steady in it.
A plan for the hard hours.
One-line answers for the advice-givers.
Seven days of coming up for air.
What’s inside
While they’re crying
Why it undoes you
The room it takes you back to
The disappearing
The cry you can’t fix
When it makes you furious
Gone quiet
Every inch of you, needed
The measuring
Doing all the knowing
Your mother, in your kitchen
Alone at 3 a.m.
Who you are now
Coming up for air: seven days
My Plan for the Hard Hours
Who it’s for
For the first year, when the baby is fine and you’re not sure you are.
If the weight doesn’t lift, or something feels wrong, the book’s “When it’s more than the fog” chapter says who to call, and your doctor is the place to start.
Loving Them, Keeping Me
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