Baby · a letter
Nobody is coming to tell me I’m doing this right
Why the first months feel like an exam with no answer key, and the one small decision that gives you back a surprising amount of yourself.
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Baby · the first eighteen months
The Baby months.
Everything is new and everyone has advice. You’re learning to lead a very small person while finding your own footing, and you get to lead, even now.
One idea for these years
You get to lead, even now.
Fed baby, standing mother.
The plan is for the adults.
Answer the cry. Keep yourself.
Use it tonight
“In these months, firm points at the chaos around your baby, never at your baby.” The rhythm, the visitors, the advice: that’s where your firmness goes. Your baby gets you, answering.
Letters for these years
Something to read tonight.
Baby · a letter
Breast, bottle, both: am I failing if…?
Why feeding turned into a test of you, the only two measures that count, and the decision to leave alone tonight.
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Sleep training or not: how do I choose?
Why the nights fall apart, the three ways a house can answer a baby at night, and the one rule above every plan.
Read the letterBaby · a letter
Why does my baby’s crying make me feel like this?
What a cry can land on in you, what answering your baby really means, and how to keep yourself in the first year without ever leaving them unanswered.
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Before You Spiral
For the 2 a.m. worry about your baby: not what it is, but which door it goes through, and the words for the call. A short read, yours to keep.
The complete book · 363 pages
Dear Momma Baby
You get to lead, even now.
For the first eighteen months: how to lead a very small person with confidence, and hear your own voice over everyone else’s advice.
Look insideThe Baby Guides
One hard part, all the way through.
Breast, bottle or both
However You Feed Them
For the most counted job you’ll ever do: a feeding plan you choose, a limit you set, and an answer for every comment.
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Nights, naps and baby sleep
Steady Nights
For the long nights: three ways to answer at night, chosen in daylight by you, always within safe-sleep guidance.
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When the first year takes all of you
Loving Them, Keeping Me
For when everything wants a piece of you: how to answer the cry and keep yourself, in your baby’s first year.
Look insideThe Baby Collection
Beside you for all eighteen months, whichever hard part arrives first.
The complete book and all three Baby Guides, together.
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