Kids · a letter
Why does bedtime take an hour?
Because, night by night, it’s started paying out. Here’s how a twenty-minute bedtime turns into ninety, and three moves for tonight.
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Kids · from the Twos to the edge of the teens
The Kid years.
The bedtimes, the storms, the sibling wars and the battle over shoes. It’s never one thing for long, and you’re allowed to lead through all of it, warmly.
One idea for these years
You own bedtime. They own sleep.
The storm is theirs. The steering is yours.
The fight is theirs. The house is yours.
Their no is theirs. What it lands on is yours.
Use it tonight
When something’s going wrong, sort it before you act. What’s theirs: the feeling, the sleep, the fight. And what’s yours to hold.
Letters for these years
Something to read tonight.
Kids · a letter
Consequences or punishment? How to tell the difference
The one tool a whole generation of advice quietly dropped, the half-second test that keeps it kind, and the line you never cross.
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The meltdown on the store floor: what do I actually do?
You can’t make a storm stop. Here’s what you can do: the one-breath read, three moves while it’s happening, and the line you hold.
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Siblings fighting again: do I step in or stay out?
Why settling every fight makes them fight more, the three questions to ask before you walk in, and the one to stop asking.
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I yelled at my kids again. Now what?
Why a small “no” can set off something so big, the four moves before you go over the edge, and how to come back after.
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Start here, on us
Why Is Everything a Battle?
For the shoes, the park, the screen and the car seat: one three-second move that takes the fight out of more of them than you’d expect. A short read, yours to keep.
The complete book · 346 pages
Dear Momma Kids
You are allowed to lead.
Warm, connected and firm, from the Twos to the edge of the teens: the belief that holds it together, and a chapter for every season of these years.
Look insideThe Kids Guides
One hard part, all the way through.
Bedtime that takes an hour
Goodnight Means Goodnight
For the bedtime that has become the longest hour of your day: a plan made in daylight, and the words for every “one more.”
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Tantrums and meltdowns
Through the Storm
For the toddler on the store floor and the nine-year-old behind the slammed door: what to do in the first ten seconds, and every minute after.
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Siblings who won’t stop fighting
Siblings, Not Sides
For the house where you referee all day: when to stay out, when to step beside them, and when to step in.
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When you’re the one who loses it
When It Boils Over
For the moment your voice goes up, and the guilt that follows: what sets you off, how to step away without leaving them, and how to come back.
Look insideThe Kids Collection
Whatever these years bring next, it’s already on your shelf.
The complete book and all four Kids Guides, together.
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