Teens · a letter
How much freedom is too much?
Not an age, a pace. The three jobs you’ll hold between eleven and eighteen, how to hand over a key on purpose, and the few that never hand over.
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Teens · eleven to eighteen
The Teen years.
The door closes and the phone lights up. You keep leading while you hand over the keys, one at a time, and you stay the one they call.
One idea for these years
You’re still the leader.
Watch in the open, let go on purpose.
Work first. The work is theirs.
Don’t chase. Don’t leave. Don’t trade.
Use it tonight
Before tonight’s conversation, ask what you’re actually deciding. Is it a rule you need to keep in place, or a key you’re ready to hand over? Then say only that.
Letters for these years
Something to read tonight.
Teens · a letter
The homework standoff: whose work is it?
Why the same fight comes back every evening, what it’s really about, and the one move for tonight.
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Should I check my teenager’s phone?
When looking is leading, when it needs a reason, and what to do tonight with the phone in your hand.
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My teenager won’t talk to me. What do I do?
Why reaching harder tends to push them further, the three refusals that keep the way back open, and the one time the rules change.
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Start here, on us
Your Teenage Stranger
For the night you looked across the dinner table and wondered who this is: you don’t have to read them to lead them. A short read, yours to keep.
The complete book · 398 pages
Dear Momma Teens
You’re still the leader.
From eleven to eighteen: keep leading, hand over the keys one at a time, and stay the one they call.
Look insideThe Teens Guides
One hard part, all the way through.
Phones, gaming and secret accounts
Screens & Secrecy
For the phone at the dinner table and the account you weren’t meant to find: watch in the open, and hand it over on purpose.
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School, grades and what comes next
The Pressure Years
For the homework standoff and the future conversation: what’s yours to hold, and what’s theirs to carry.
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When they go quiet
When They Pull Away
For when your teenager goes quiet: how to stay easy to find without chasing them or giving in.
Look insideThe Teens Collection
Hand over every key, and stay the one they call.
The complete book and all three Teens Guides, together.
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