Teens · The Guides
A Dear Momma Teens Guide
Screens & Secrecy
Leading your teenager through phones, monitoring, gaming, and hidden accounts
Watch in the open, let go on purpose.
For the phone at the dinner table and the account you weren’t meant to find: watch in the open, and hand it over on purpose.
What it’s costing you
The phone at the dinner table, the screen under the covers, the account you weren’t meant to find. You don’t want to be the parent who reads everything, and you can’t be the one who knows nothing.
Why it works
Watch in the open, let go on purpose. You check where they can see you check, and you hand over more each year, as the agreement holds.
Use it tonight
If they say…
“You’re so controlling.”
“I’m in charge of some of this, yes. Less every year, if the agreement holds.”
“Everyone else’s mom lets them.”
“Maybe. I’m not their mom, and this is how it works here.”
“It’s my phone. I paid for it.”
“It is yours. It still sleeps in the kitchen.”
from Screens & Secrecy
All the way through
What to do tonight, before you do anything with that phone.
Checking out loud, the nightly handover, the first account, gaming (the stopping point, the money, the voice in the headset), the locked door, hidden accounts and second phones, what you found, the group chat, and taking it back.
What changes
A phone agreement your family can actually keep.
The check, done out loud, without a raid.
A plan for what to do with what you found.
A way to take it back, and a week to rebuild.
What’s inside
Tonight, before you do anything with that phone
What the fight is really about
Watch in the open, let go on purpose
The check, out loud
The nightly handover
“Can I have an account?”
Gaming: the stopping point, the money, the odds, the voice in the headset
The locked door
Hidden accounts, second phones, deleted threads
What you found
The group chat
Taking it back
Our Phone Agreement + the Take-It-Back Week
Who it’s for
For phones, gaming and accounts, from the first device to the last years at home.
If what you found worries you for their safety, the routing page at the front says who to call first.
Screens & Secrecy
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On the Teens shelf
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The complete book · 398 pages
Dear Momma Teens
School, homework and the future
The Pressure Years
Staying close without chasing them
When They Pull Away
The Teens Collection
The complete book and every Teens Guide, together.
Tonight, before you do anything with that phone, read Chapter 1.