Teens · The Guides
A Dear Momma Teens Guide
The Pressure Years
What’s yours to hold and what’s theirs to carry, through school, homework and the future
Work first. The work is theirs.
For the homework standoff and the future conversation: what’s yours to hold, and what’s theirs to carry.
What it’s costing you
The kitchen table at nine, the email about missing work, the grade site you check more than they do. You want them to do well, and you can feel yourself starting to do it for them.
Why it works
Work first, and the work is theirs. You hold the order of the evening and the expectations of your house. They carry the work, the grades and, more each year, the plan.
Use it tonight
If they say…
“I’ll do it later.”
“Work first, then later is yours.”
“Why do I even need this?”
“Some of it you won’t. Learning to do the parts you don’t like is still worth it.”
“Everyone used it.”
“Maybe. You’re the one I’m talking to.”
from The Pressure Years
All the way through
Work first, without a war.
The homework standoff, when starting is the hard part, the missing-work email, the grade site, who emails the teacher, the minimum and the never-good-enough, when something else did the work, the morning they won’t go, and the future conversation, even when their plan isn’t yours.
What changes
One rule for the evening: work first, then later is yours.
Knowing which emails are yours to send, and which are theirs.
A plan for a term that’s already sinking.
A way into the future conversation that doesn’t end in a fight.
What’s inside
Tonight, at the kitchen table
It’s rarely about the homework
Your hopes, their life
Work first, without a war
The homework standoff
When starting is the hard part
The missing-work email
The grade site
Who emails the teacher
When nothing is good enough
When the term is already sinking
The morning they won’t go
The future conversation
When their plan isn’t yours
Our Term Plan + the Ten School Days
Who it’s for
For school, homework and the future, through the teen years.
When it’s not the homework but the distance?
When They Pull Away, the Guide to staying close without chasing them or giving in.
The Pressure Years
- The full Guide as a digital PDF, [page count confirmed at the sweep] pages
- Sent to your email the moment you buy
- Yours to come back to
$24
Get Your CopyAll sales are final, except where the law requires otherwise.
On the Teens shelf
Beside it
The complete book · 398 pages
Dear Momma Teens
Phones, monitoring, gaming, and hidden accounts
Screens & Secrecy
Staying close without chasing them
When They Pull Away
The Teens Collection
The complete book and every Teens Guide, together.
Tonight, at the kitchen table, start with Chapter 1.