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A Dear Momma Kids Guide
Siblings, Not Sides
Leading them past the jealousy, the fights, and the scorekeeping
The fight is theirs. The house is yours.
For the house where you referee all day: when to stay out, when to step beside them, and when to step in.
What it’s costing you
“He started it.” “She touched my stuff.” “You always take her side.” By dinner you’ve been judge, referee and jury, and nobody thinks you were fair. The fighting wears on you, and so does the feeling that you’re the one keeping score.
Why it works
The fight belongs to them; the house belongs to you. You don’t have to settle every argument. You decide what’s allowed in your home, protect anyone getting hurt, and hand the rest back to them to work out.
Use it tonight
If they say…
“He started it!”
“Maybe. What needs to happen now?”
“You always take her side!”
“I’m not taking a side. I’m helping you both.”
“It’s not fair!”
“Which kind of fair is this: same, turns, or what you need?”
from Siblings, Not Sides
All the way through
Out, Beside, In: a simple way to decide in the moment whether to stay out, help without taking sides, or step in because someone’s getting hurt.
The reports, the turns, “it’s not fair,” the new baby, and making it right with each other afterward.
What changes
One question to decide fast: out, beside, or in.
Fewer reports to judge, and a line that ends them.
An answer for “It’s not fair” that doesn’t start a new argument.
A reset for when the house feels like a war zone.
What’s inside
What they’re really fighting over
Out, Beside, In
“He started it”: when every fight comes with a report
Mine: stuff, space and turns
“It’s not fair”: fair, equal, and what each needs
The new baby, and the big one’s feelings
The easy one, the difficult one
After: making it right with each other
Our House Plan + the Seven-Day Sibling Map
Who it’s for
For two or more children fighting over stuff, space, turns and you.
When you’re the one losing it in the middle of it?
When It Boils Over, the Guide to what sets you off, and the way back.
Siblings, Not Sides
- The full Guide as a digital PDF, [page count confirmed at the sweep] pages
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- Yours to come back to
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On the Kids shelf
Beside it
The complete book · 346 pages
Dear Momma Kids
Bedtime and the visits after lights out
Goodnight Means Goodnight
Tantrums and meltdowns
Through the Storm
What sets you off, and the way back
When It Boils Over
The Kids Collection
The complete book and every Kids Guide, together.
If they’re at it right now, start with Chapter 1.