Kids · The complete book
Kids · the complete book · 346 pages
Dear Momma Kids
The guide by your side through the wonders, wins, and wear of raising kids
You are allowed to lead.
Warm, connected and firm, from the Twos to the edge of the teens: the belief that holds it together, and a chapter for every season of these years.
What it’s costing you
You did the reading. You name the feeling, you get down on their level, you validate before you redirect. And still the shoes take twenty minutes, the screens end in tears, and you’re the one who’s falling apart by seven. You were handed the warm half of the job, and the half where you’re allowed to lead got left out. This book hands it back, and keeps the warmth.
Why the whole stage
Kind and firm, together: the warmth stays, and so does the line. The book gives you the belief first, then the mechanics, so every chapter after it works the same way. When the problem changes (and between two and twelve, it changes every few months), you already know how to lead it.
Use it tonight
The two hands at once
“I won’t let you hit. I can see how angry you are.”
“You can be as mad as you need to be. The answer is still no.”
“It’s bedtime now. I love you, and I’ll see you in the morning.”
from Dear Momma Kids
The whole stage
The whole of these years in one book.
Why you were sold the gentle half of the job, and how the two hands work together. The mechanics of leading: boundaries that hold, consequences that aren’t punishment, follow-through, and saying less. Then the big feelings, the daily grind, the social world and school, one chapter for each moment you’ll meet between the Twos and the edge of the teens, and a part that’s only about you.
How it’s built
Ten parts, fifty-one chapters.
You are allowed to lead
Sold gentle, handed the bill · “stay calm” was the wrong target · kind and firm: how the two hands work
The mechanics of leadership
Boundaries that hold · consequences are not punishment · say less, mean more · follow-through · the united front, whatever yours looks like
Reading the moment
Read it, then lead it · the friction points you can see coming
The big feelings
Tantrums and meltdowns · anger and aggression · whining · fears and the dark · when worry runs the show
The daily grind
Mornings · mealtimes · baths, teeth and hair · potty · the car
The battles of will
When they won’t listen · defiance · backtalk · bedtime · screens · chores
The social world
Siblings · sharing and fairness · friendship · lying · manners
School and the wider world
Separation · the Velcro child · when everything changes · school and effort · boredom and letting them struggle
The mother
Why the “no” guts you · the child rides your nervous system · when you lose it, and how you come back · filling the cup you pour from
What to come back to
Scripts for the moments that repeat · the reset pages · a developmental map of the stage
What you’ll reach for
The scripts: the actual words for the moments that repeat, ready to grab.
The reset pages: one-page plans for the moments that have already gone sideways.
”Come back to this”: five lines at the end of every chapter that hold the whole chapter.
The map of the stage: what’s ordinary at each age, from the Twos to the edge of the teens.
“They are built for a woman standing in a hallway with no time and no bandwidth, and they are the part of this book you are most likely to use at seven o’clock on a bad Tuesday.” (How to Use This Book)
Who it’s for
For the Twos to the edge of the teens.
Need help with one thing right now?
The Kids Guides each take one hard part all the way through: bedtime, tantrums, siblings, your temper.
Not sure where to start?
The short read Why Is Everything a Battle?, for the everyday fights over shoes, screens and the car seat.
Dear Momma Kids
- The complete book as a digital PDF, 346 pages
- Built to be dipped into: go straight to tonight’s chapter
- Sent to your email the moment you buy
- Yours to come back to through the whole stage
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On the Kids shelf
The Kids Guides
Bedtime and the visits after lights out
Goodnight Means Goodnight
Tantrums and meltdowns
Through the Storm
When they won’t stop fighting each other
Siblings, Not Sides
What sets you off, and the way back
When It Boils Over
The Kids Collection
The complete book and every Kids Guide, so the next hard part is already on your shelf.
Read the belief once. Reach for the rest for years.